the male female love mentalities.......

the human love is always more in favor of a woman..... or a girl as she is more capable of expressing her feelings and give out her emotions to anyone...the girls today are treated more like some kind of fairy in the beginning soon after wards they are more like KACHRA for there boyfriends...and even girls make a FOOL out of there GUYS at times........of course sometimes it feels so because it is true that they are misbehaving but sometimes it is because of the female perspective....and sometimes because of the sadistic male mentality......

a mans life starts with his family and so many people just appreciate him just because he is a son who was born in there family......he is always kept above all and especially girls....and he is very well taught that he should never let any girl get over him in any situation......he is supposed to be the KULDEEPAK(sometimes COOLDEEPAK and many times UNCOOLDEEPAK) of his stupid family....or if possible somehow a nice family....problem is that most of them do fall in love with some GIRL...(if not even guys nowadays)someday.....they have to... and maximum times its because of the emotional and mental deprivation he suffers at his home......maximum great INDIAN families know how to put a mental burden upon the male mental population....its like one man carrying more than eleven times of burden than he can take cos he has a large family and each one wants him to be in a different frame of time and place....

some want him to be an engineer and a financially good man,some want him to be a great family man who can go out of his ways to help his family......some want him to be an independent individual who will move out of the family if necessary for his own success and philosophies....and as a matter of fact all these suggestions are making our Mr man into Mr INDIA(invisible) because suggesting a male about what he should do itself is a mass harassment conducted in almost every house these days at least in INDIA....why would real MAN would need anyone to opine for him.....but it is not so from childhood he is taught how to remain under some or the other custom of the family be it going abroad or anything else including marrying off with his family chosen bride WONLY!!!!

manliness in INDIAN men is a)deprived of proper upbringing b) misguided and taught to be stud's by torturing and dominating woman c)mentally unstable because of over flooding suggestions from all sides e) have a great sense of their and their families false pride....and many more..... is man's manliness limited to this much??? making money handling his wife like a ringmaster and showing of his economical and physical strength and vigor is that it???????

i would say in that case INDIA has LOST all its manliness till now cos the whole child to youth to middle age to old age men are mere STUPID baboons.... no more no less......why is a man called like woman when he shows his emotionalism or when he is more sensitive towards his wife and children..when he wants to go out of the family business and trends to establish his own life his own art or some other aim of his life of some kind........why is INDIAN man always judged by everyone???
mothers,fathers,uncles,aunts,grandparents,siblings,kids,wife from all sides this man is judged even at his office by his peers,boss and juniors......from all the sides he is crunched into what other people want out of him.........(i am talking only about sincere and truly good guys not about some loser who is in ditch by himself)

no one cares even if he wants to do something else????and if he does not satisfy one's requirements and demands he is criticized to be taking side of some one.that he is being partial.......towards someone.....that he is being immoral in doing so and what not a trillion people stand up to criticize a single man as soon as they get the opportunity......a man's life is most tortured by his mother and his wife and it is so especially if his mother and wife are not on good terms with each other....he will always be judged by two constantly nagging women(DUKHI ATMA)....both will be so STUPID to not understand him enough.....two emotionally ill and sick women will always try to make him their own.....what the **** who the **** you are to make him yours....who the **** are you i say....? just because you had him nine months in your tummy and because you bore his children in your tummy for nine months or so????? wow how crazy......is that the cost you make him to repay to you??? is he not supposed to live for himself after that?????

man is logic(rational) he has pressure.....and he has a lack of emotional touch....and it is only and only because of his stupid upbringing by some equally stupid mother father brother or some one else like you......to keep dipping him in and out of your emotional bouts will not solve his problem but will definitely make him more UNEMOTIONAL.....and RUTHLESS towards himself and towards you....he will not be able tolerate all the mental and physical and emotional stress in his life which he has, but others don't even realize........

just because he is an INDIAN MAN and is always supposed to be some snorting BISON who will commit each and every task with all his strength for others.....and himself.... mans love is almost killed many times for the sake of his obligations.....or for not fulfilling them... but he has his own potential and his own capacity just like a woman.....so in love if woman shows more understanding towards him he will come out like a lion to conquer the world or even if some one else even only one man comes up to him & tries to understand him he will beautifully carve a niche out for himself..... but no one cares....so maximum times he is a failure.....and sometimes when he is brought up like that he gets a girl and he misuses her sexually or for other such material benefits....because he is taught so........and many times there mother teach them to pass there time with a girl but to not get involved with her.....WOW only a woman can help a woman..........what the **** LIKE THIS????!!!!!!!!!and some other woman considers each and every time a man leaves her to be a use made of her by him........what the **** again......maximum men do that so what??!! that doesn't mean each and every man does that.......


now comes the woman side of LOVE.........they are hollow or empty or lonely or they are just GIRL enough or are just a strong minded and pretty girl who wants a companion in her life.....GIRLS are born emotional and not as logical as men....so they have propensity to fall in love than men......and why not they are much better than men in love.....they are much more self sacrificing and selfless in general about everything in love.........they are more patient....and have more perseverance and more to offer in love......she has more power to handle the emotions of her partner to give emotional support and understanding to her MAN.....frankly speaking she is just so eligible and capable for love...much more than men........

but they have their own obligations.......again marrying the person her parents choose to...the choice she has to make between her father and her lover......to find a better man out of the two.....she is all about emotional suffering....like men are all about mental or logical suffering......she always had some expectations and dreams and emotional fantasies about her lover and her life partner and her father and her family.......and all that......and then they make an emotional choice....which seems the most appropriate to them.....but most of the times its a very emotional conclusion of long love story.....sometime they miss the logical side....and when they have to face the reality they are shattered to pieces and trillions of them.....the life an INDIAN woman is more of a tug of war between her emotional counterparts that is she is always pulled by two people that she loves....so she always all about an emotional dilemma.....or a damsel in distress.... but no where to go.....sometimes because of her own stupid emotional sacrifices which have become irreversible and sometimes because of her own emotional stubbornness......and sometimes because of her emotionally striking back at something or being furious with anger or being jealous of someone.......because she is emotional.......

woman has started getting to see better days these days....and guys have started having the worst of there experiences may be because to balance out......what they used to do to women....

i say both of them and there respective problems and their respective stupidities are making there life more and more miserable and the more miserable it gets the more deprived of love they will be.....and the more mad men they will produce like themselves......go continue with the same practices if that's the way you want it to be.....

but BABY if you want to change this f**** non sense then its time to introspect and change yourself for the betterment of both of you.....

man can provide the best of logical,rational,practical support to a woman.....give her physical and mental security, can give her the truth always..give her single hearted love, can give her the best of love that he has to offer....by using his emotional side....the best of whatever he has to offer....it need not be an exaggeration of love.it need not be an exploding and explosive sexual love affair or marriage......but can also be a balanced and soothing experience for both of you if you stop dominating her and just take into consideration what she thinks or what she has got or what she has to offer.......let her dominate your decisions sometimes for the sake of her pleasure alone...go sometimes out of your ways just to express to her your love........and don't f**** love her if you can't take her into your family or home or marriage thing.......its better to kill your love for the sake of your betterment as well as her's...don't fall in love and then back out because that will make you and her remain with a permanent bruise on your heart forever of course only if your love was true....at all....

love is unconditional but marriage is not......just realize that both of you...

and make the right choice out of the one's you love.....and then and then only put forward yourself wholeheartedly for the sake of any further things like marriage.....just don't make an emotional fuss out of it......be prepared for both the probable answers yes or no......

girls!!! just try to understand your man a bit......if he is aloof......it might be because of his stress.....which he gets from other GUY things he does......a guy might not always remain as cool and understanding as he was before......but if he was truly in love with you and if you were sure about it even only for a minute be sure that he is still in love with you.......a good guy can remain and be single mindedly in love with you just like you do.....but he needs different things in his life to sustain himself and his family......he will not need only love alone....he will need more of a tough and understanding companion a best friend and more of his own logical better half than an emotionally nagging,possessive and sexy(beautiful) wife......he may not need a consistent 'i love you' but just a subtle gesture is enough to let him know that you love him.......mans outwards toughness doesn't mean that he lacks an understanding heart....and perhaps the more sensitive his heart will be the more he is prone to indifference and aloofness....because of the way our society treats him like......and please don't judge him on the basis of what you see...and listen him saying..learn how to read between the lines....guys listen less to direct suggestions and more to subconscious or indirect suggestions but never misuse them or else you will lose the worthy side of your mate as he will be lost in his own world after that......it takes very less time to break a guys heart....cos he will not consider you trust worthy enough if you lie or cheat on him even once.not all but maximum of them will lose it for you.please respect his philosophies and thoughts only if you truly are able to understand them and really like it.....but dont flabbergast his motives by your direct and acutely disliking reply that might make him lose his confidence........just suggest something positive......

sometimes girls do make very rational and logically correct decisions but they are emotionally rational even in that .....as they are very particular and staunch about there logical ethics beliefs ONLY IF THEY HAVE IT.of course....

you will see very few MEN being so bickering about there work ethics they will be staunch and will enforce it but women are particularly BITTER about there work ethics and strictness once they have it this shows that even the rationality of WOMAN is more or less judged(guided) by her emotions....

and sometimes or many times her staunch emotionally rational beliefs make others repay,pay and practically speaking regret for being with that particular woman on particular place and time......

woman can really make a man regret.....where as man can make her regret only if he knows how to bring out her emotional possessiveness or some old emotional harm......

men are more susceptible to rationally flabbergasting comments by a woman...but some times a real strong male can become very indifferent towards that woman in such cases and can cause her an emotional breakdown cos once a man becomes indifferent towards a woman it very difficult make him regret or feel bad about something because he will very much beyond or away from that to even understand the vitality and importance of that issue in order to break him down.....he will become a temporary super man.........

and a few of these things also apply to guys towards there girls.....no one can put 'how to's ' for men and women separately.....depends on how both of you are.....how emotional or rational she is how emo and rational you are......according that you have share the above thing....amongst you.....where she lacks you have to make up where you lack she will have to make.......your both of you start lacking there has to be some third party support for you to make up......

that third party can be none other than GOD.....or may be meditation.....sometimes even your kids.....agnostics can go to some nice beautiful calming place......or sometimes.....even a trip or a movie or a philosophical discussion or any activity of a common interest may be taken up........

marriage of logic and emotions in oneself will definitely lead one to a successful marriage in reality......


BEST OF LUCK
G.A.A....